Friday, January 16, 2009


Can I tell you just how much I want one of them?

There was a time, not too long ago, when I thought I didn't want anymore children. Babies are difficult. No sleep. Crying. No sleep. Feeding. No sleep. Changing. No sleep. Did I mention no sleep? I still want though.
I will be happy if Abdurrahman is all that Allah has written for us, but why can't I just have another right now.


In other news, my husbands case status has been updated from pending to ready for adjudication. Slowly but surely we are moving forward. Allah has given us strength through this long and difficult journey and I have no doubt he can get us through to the end...inshaAllah with a positive outcome.


Blogger Solace In Islam said...

Insha'Allah soon you and your dh will be together and can start growing your family!

2:18 PM  
Anonymous Gabi said...

So good to hear that! I hope he will be with you soon!!

8:11 AM  
Blogger Lisa said...

I'm praying for you on this sister. I never wanted to ask but figured that we're walking the same road as far as children are concerned. You son is 5 I think and mine is 4. It is difficult to know that our children will be so far apart in age when and if we have more.

It is something that I struggle with everyday, but in my case I must be responsible since I'm not in a stable enough marriage where we agree on religion.

I also will be ok with just one but it does hurt. I'm thinking of you and if you ever need to talk let me know.

Love, Lisa

12:32 PM  
Blogger UmmAbdurRahman said...

Thank you lisa. It's funny because we've decided that we want another child when he comes home, but I also want to enjoy some time with my husband before I become a puking hormonal pregnant mess. I give it a couple months.

My son was 3 when my husband left and in the months before that we really struggled about whether or not we would have another one then. It was always in our mind that he would have to leave for a while, but we never expected it to be so sudden and for such an extended period of time. It's really put a kink in all of our plans.

Sometimes, our plan is not what allah has planned for us. We adjust and we move forward with those plans instead. I can look now at the wisdom in that plan. It has saved me and protected me from absolutely losing my mind. I don't think I could have handled two children in this situation. I have to look back and be thankful that everything unfolded the way that it did. It isn't ideal, but under the cicumstances it is the best it could have been.

12:44 PM  
Blogger Lisa said...

I'm sure that you'll both know when the times right. My husband and I planned for Youssef and got pregnant after 1 month of marriage. It was so fast! Sometimes I wish I waited just a little, though we love that Youssef has been a part of all of our "first dates."

Clearly, Allah wrote for you to have things happen this way. It is so hard for me to imagine you alone with two kids as well. I don't know how the finances are, but I know it must be difficult to just get money wired from Algeria.

For some reason, having just one boy is like having a tiny sidekick and it's pretty easy. But, having a daughter and being alone or two boys who would want to play rough would be challenging.

I'm just happy to hear that your nearing the end of this test. I can't imagine what it's like to miss your husband dear sister.

2:02 PM  
Blogger Rainbow In The Grey Sky said...

Aslamu alakum
nice to read you sister it's been tooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo long and i missed you, i pray allah bless you with a pious and healthy child ameen. InshaAllah dh be with you soon its great news hugsxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

11:14 AM  
Blogger UmmAbdur-Rahmaan said...

Well it is kind of hard to make a baby with out...P.....LOL Heres to hoping you get more of that this year too (I was gonna type the whole word but I didnt for fear of you erasing it cuz your a scardy cat....)

12:23 PM  
Blogger Ines said...

Nice to hear from you again sis. May Allah reunite you with your dh soon and may He bless you both with more children, ameen.

12:30 PM  
Blogger UmmAbdurRahman said...

hahahaha @ UA-R!!! only you...only you. I can't tell you how much your comment made me laugh. I hope the same for you as well :D

12:26 AM  
Blogger jana z. said...

good to see you write again!! best news here is that the case status has actually changed...i know that made you feel really happy but not as happy as youll be once all of this mess is over.

inshallah sister, he will get home soon for you and that cute son of yours. spend time with him and then soon after start making a little bro or sis for your son inshallah!!

6:04 AM  
Blogger iMuslimah said...

Assalamu alaykum,

Nice to see a new post! I am happy to hear that case status has changed. I know the enitre process is torture.

I hope inshallah a decision comes soon, and that your small family is reunited under the best of circumstances! A new baby would be nice too ;)

You will be in my duas,


6:13 AM  
Anonymous Safiya Outlines said...

Salaam Alaikum,

You are in my du'as and I hope that all goes well for you, insha Allah.

3:11 PM  

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